My old high school sweetheart pinged me on pussbook with one of those ‘write twenty-five random things about yourself’ notes. It’s a fun exercise, a wee snapshot.
01. I love the exhilaration of snowboarding and skateboarding. Balance, acceleration, learned skills, nerves singing, muscles obeying, adrenalin, risk.
02. Science fiction is my crack cocaine. The feeling of having your imagination stretched in new directions and shaken out.
03. I’m a born problem solver. Unexpected adversity only gives me a blip of stress, quickly superseded by a calm, ‘how do we fix this’ response.
04. Loyalty is very important to me. Once I’m friends with someone, my resources are theirs indefinitely, irrespective of time and distance.
05. A colleague once said, “People are either collaborative, or confrontational.” I love cooperating on cool things – the feeling of combining talents to make something greater. I hate confrontation, and have difficulty with those people that pursue it for its own sake.
06. Making music with others is an amazing feeling, but for some reason I rarely find myself in situations where I can. I’d love to fix that.
07. I’m basically lazy and lack a strong work ethic, but the other genes I inherited make up for it.
mid-twenties, now there was a party
I love creating things, but have a hard time completing them (see 07). I’ve found my best finish-rate is with the written word. So that’s what I concentrate on.
09. I hate not being taken seriously. I make an effort to be honest and say what I mean; it’s frustrating when people don’t recognise that.
10. Lucid dreaming is one of my favourite things. When the opportunity arises, I’m a flyer.
11. I love the feeling of understanding complicated things. When they click into place and suddenly appear simple, integrated into a wider network of thought. So I get my kicks designing complex software, and at home reading about science of all flavours.
12. Minimising stress is important to me at all times. I’m pretty good at it now; my boss tells me my calm approach is infectious.
13. Having money has never been important to me. It’s useful to alleviate domestic stresses, but in itself has little appeal. Easy come, easy go.
14. I often think of how I would be with my kids, teaching and playing. For now the scenario still feels far-off.
15. I’m a solitary person by nature. Years ago I would have said, ‘a need for constant human contact demonstrates insecurity’, but…
16. …I’ve learned that wildly different personalities are valid, and effective in their own way. Your own perspective is not ‘correct’, it’s just yours.
17. I much prefer order to disorder, but I’m not OCD about it.
18. Moving to another country taught me the value of minimalism, travelling light. The only things I gladly hoard are books, with the hopeful notion that my kids will appreciate them one day.
19. Long-term monogamy is by far my preferred state. However I’ve become very demanding over the last few years, possibly to a self-defeating degree.
20. In my 30s, I fully appreciate the restorative powers of the ‘disco nap’.
21. One day – when my future wife helps pay the bills – I’ll go part-time on my day job and start writing on a larger scale.
22. I think human relationships are the most important things we have. Getting to know people always works out for the best: you either experience something admirable in another person that you can emulate, or learn a negative trait that you can avoid having yourself. The more you meet, the more you learn.
23. I dream about my Gran and Gramps all the time, and I’m happy about that. I dream about my Mum much less often, but it’s always very upsetting in a bittersweet way.
24. I’ve never broken any limbs, apart from fracturing my skull as a toddler, way before the dawn of memory. When I was 18 I did suffer partial hearing loss in my right ear. I’ve long since adjusted, but as a consequence I feel a creeping introversion in noisy places.
25. I try to keep in mind that some things will never, never stop happening: learning, finding ways to be a better person, being wrong.